Proverbs 27:15 ¶ A continual dropping in a very rainy day and
a contentious woman are alike. 16 Whosoever hideth her hideth the wind, and the
ointment of his right hand, which bewrayeth itself.
Proverbs 19:13 A foolish son is the calamity
of his father: and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.
Contentious people are angry and start trouble.
Proverbs 21:19 It is better to dwell in the
wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.
Proverbs 26:21 As coals are to burning coals, and wood to fire; so is a
contentious man to kindle strife.
They are argumentative as Paul uses the word
here in his final word on whether women should have long hair or not. He gives
a long set of reasons why the Corinthian conviction that women should have long
hair is a good one and then ends up with this to overthrow any divisiveness,
which is, of course, left out of most preaching by people who insist women must
have long hair to be Godly women.
1Corinthians 11:16 But if any man seem to be
contentious, we have no such custom, neither the churches of God.
Living with an angry, drama loving,
argumentative woman is a very unhappy circumstance to find oneself in. You can
try to hide her but you might as well try to hide the wind. As Dr. Ruckman says
in his commentary, “every time she opened her mouth, the morning shift at the
plant knocked off for lunch.” Hiding her would be like trying to hide the Icy
Hot muscle pain cream you’ve got on your hand when the smell of it gives you
away.
The Proverbs also tell us twice;
Proverbs 21:9 & 25:24 It is better to
dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
Let this be a lesson to young,
Christian men. Choosing a wife is perhaps the most important decision you’ll
make in your life next to trusting in Christ. Traits that are cute or humorous
when you’re learning about each other become monstrous problems once you’re
married. Ruckman also quotes an old saw, “a sweetheart is like a bottle of
wine, while a wife is like a wine bottle.” And, of course, many an unsaved boy
who chose a woman for how much of a “hottie” she was lived to regret it for the
rest of their lives.
Stay away from women, and the same applies to
young girls choosing a husband to stay away from men, who are angry, love
drama, and are argumentative. They will be like a steady drip, drip, drip on
your head for the rest of your life.
And women and men who insist on contradicting every word that
comes out of their husband or wife’s mouth in a little power game of oneupsmanship
are fools. I’ve known guys who, no matter what their spouse had accomplished or
done, simply had to point out that it was nothing like what they had
accomplished or done. They are fools and men of little consequence, usually,
just little boys insecure in their manhood. I’ve known women that would never
let a moment go by in which they didn’t take the opportunity to belittle or
demean their husbands. These women, too, are fools and people who “ain’t ‘bout
nothin’” as we said down South.
Are you a contentious spouse sarcastically
putting down everything your husband or wife says? You need to ask for Christ’s
forgiveness. You’re just wicked.
Proverbs
27:17 ¶ Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man
sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.
Several
commentators are in agreement that one person alone does not have the advantage
of having a friend with whom they can work out what they believe and
understand. So, I have viewed this proverb in regard to our meeting as a church
body. People who believe they can understand the Bible sitting at home by
themselves run into the danger of going off on a tangent with their own mind
deceiving them regarding what this or that means. When people come together and
Bible doctrine is discussed and considered they have a better chance of a
better understanding. As the old poem goes, no man is an island.
We
benefit greatly from fellowship with other believers in that things we come to
believe can be discussed and questioned as a group. I can remember coming up
with ideas on the meaning of Scripture and then when I happily pronounced my
“findings” at a Bible Study in which I was involved someone would say, “but
what about this verse?”
As
long as we are all reading the Bible and cross-referencing the verses and not
expecting to be spoonfed doctrine we all have the capacity to think for
ourselves, pray, and reflect on what we are being taught. Consider, if you
will, the advantage of sharing your thoughts with another person, your spouse
or another friend, and then compounding that by meeting with the church to air
your views and sharpen your focus and understanding.
God
uses others to sharpen our wisdom and understanding is a good understanding of
this proverb, in my estimation.
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