24 ¶ Whoso robbeth his father or his mother, and saith, It is no transgression; the same is the companion of a destroyer.
Jesus made a similar statement with regard to withholding help from your parents for so called religious reasons.
Mark 7:10 For Moses said, Honour thy father and thy mother; and, Whoso curseth father or mother, let him die the death: 11 But ye say, If a man shall say to his father or mother, It is Corban, that is to say, a gift, by whatsoever thou mightest be profited by me; he shall be free. 12 And ye suffer him no more to do ought for his father or his mother; 13 Making the word of God of none effect through your tradition, which ye have delivered: and many such like things do ye.
(Corban is a gift dedicated to God.) The person in this Proverb steals from his parents and justifies it with his mouth as well. This could easily be applied to caring for children as some Christian cults have had people charged under our secular law for allowing their children to die from starvation while having dedicated money they could have fed the child with to their church. This is, of course, wicked and twisted, having no value for good in God’s sight as the Bible in both Testaments makes clear.
Modern Christian churches will borrow money for additions to the building in which the church meets or to increase the size of the parking lot or for some audio-visual aid for the enhancement of services while there are poor church members, often elderly and infirm, who can’t eat a proper diet or even pay their heating bills. Since the modern church has thrown their poor onto the state in defiance of what the mandate was for churches as exemplified in the New Testament this is similar to the complaints made by God against self righteous religious people.
The person who takes money that should help parents or family, or should be used to help the poor in their midst and declares that the reason they can’t do what God has told them to do is because they have dedicated the money to God is associated with “a destroyer.” The destroyer was the angel of death whom God sent to waste the Egyptian firstborn while sparing the Hebrews who had the blood sprinkled on their door lintels in the Passover.
Exodus 12:23 For the LORD will pass through to smite the Egyptians; and when he seeth the blood upon the lintel, and on the two side posts, the LORD will pass over the door, and will not suffer the destroyer to come in unto your houses to smite you.
The implication here is that you cannot use God as an excuse to not give proper time and resources to aid your family by saying that that time and those resources are dedicated to Him and can’t be used for their need. God will not accept that. Don’t use church as an excuse not to be a dutiful parent or child, a faithful friend, employee, or an honest broker in all you do representing Christ in the world. As Bob Jones, Sr. is reported to have said, “Duties never conflict.” The person who does not take care of his family has denied the faith and is worse than in an infidel as per 1 Timothy 5:8. The church body that does the same is no New Testament church but a modern parasite on society that deserves the contempt the unbelieving world lays on it, no matter how often they street preach at “gay pride rallies” or picket abortion clinics (sarcasm.)
The point is that God doesn’t want you to use Him as an excuse not to act as He has defined clearly how a Christian is supposed to act.