Proverbs 19:11 commentary

11 ¶ The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression.
There are many men who view their ability to explode at the slightest provocation a sign of their manhood. You see it and hear about it all the time in daily life. On the internet some men can’t even have a civilized conversation with someone who disagrees with them without cursing, placing their responses in all caps, and name calling. This is just the sign of an immature, small minded little boy in an adult body. Flying off the handle at the least opposition reflects badly on your character and on your maturity. If you have a short fuse you have an ‘I haven’t grown up’ problem. You’ll probably even get angry reading or hearing this because you are so enamored of your righteous fury.
God honors discretion in your attitude as you hold back your anger. After all, if God gave us what we deserve and responded to everything that made Him angry we would have ceased to exist a long time ago and only the wild animals would rule the earth. It is your glory to pass over a transgression, to just let things pass that tick you off, and to move on. Take a chill pill, cool your jets, and go cut the grass or lift weights. Get it out of your system.
Proverbs 14:29 ¶ He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly.
Proverbs 16:32 ¶ He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.
Proverbs 12:16 A fool’s wrath is presently known: but a prudent man covereth shame.
Its one thing to admit you have an anger problem and that you realize it’s a sin. It’s another to glory and revel in it. Are you a fool? Do you like being a fool? How has it helped you? I have some bad news for you. Neither God, nor I, nor the world for that matter, are particularly impressed with your bluster, swagger, hot temper, foul mouth, or vulgarities. I’ve seen families torn apart by tempers like yours, physically weaker people hurt and abused, and lives brought low. If you are quick to anger then get on your knees and pray for mercy and for deliverance. Your behavior is not pleasing to God.
Christians believe, though not all, that it is good for a child to receive physical discipline for deliberately wrong behavior. But, it is NEVER good for a child for this discipline to be meted out while you are angry. If you say, well, if I wait until I cool off I’d never spank my child. Then, if that is so, it wasn’t appropriate. Don’t take action while you’re “mad”. If an action shouldn’t be taken with a clear head and a clear heart then it is not a good action, in any event. You are never to teach your child that violence is an appropriate response to anger. Good parents will discipline a child and make it very clear why the discipline is necessary. I have heard of children who actually thank their parents for disciplining them later.
Proverbs 27:3 A stone is heavy, and the sand weighty; but a fool’s wrath is heavier than them both.